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June 13, 2008: 12:53 am: adminWorld Of Psychology

In this article I write about a parents role in teaching their child good anger management skills. How many times have you been shopping in for example a supermarket and witnessed an over-aggressive parent shouting at their child? This is exactly what not to do, that parent is giving a very bad example to their child in this example.

It is very important that we act as good role models and set good examples for our children. Two bickering parents who are constantly at each others throats or shouting orders at their children to be quiet for example, relays the wrong message to that child. If that child then has problems controlling their own anger, it should hardly come as a shock to their mom or dads.

A calm house is a happy house. Both parents are going to argue and have their differences, however they need to be adult enough to wait to discuss their issues once the kids have gone out or are in bed. I am aware that this is not always easy to carry off, but if both parents are in agreement, it can be achieved.

I am a parent myself and am certainly not a perfect dad. I actually kind of cheat as I have a bribing system in place. I have told my children that all I expect of them is to try their best, as long as they do this, it does not matter what grades they achieve. Two years ago my step-daughter who is now twelve started to play up, especially at school. I was quite shocked when I attended her parents evening to find out that she had not handed in her homework, that she had made little effort in the past couple of terms and that she had been disruptive to other members of her class.

To say I was unhappy with her is an under-statement. I was very angry, however told her that I did not want to speak about it until we arrived home. This was my way of controlling my own anger. When we had arrived home, I stated to her that I was upset about what I had heard and informed her that if she had done well, I would have bought her anything that she wanted, up to a certain amount of money. She was quite shocked by that and stated, even the England football kit. I said that I would have but that she was not having it now. I did however agree that if she did well during the next few terms, that I would.

She has never looked back since, but my bank manager is not happy with the situation. We also have a weekly bribe. If both of my children behave during the week they can choose a toy of their choice on the Saturday, again within reason. If and it often happens they do not deserve the toy, I have no need to become angry as they just do not get the reward. This makes them annoyed. but teaches them a huge lesson.

You may think that I am cheating but it works for us and we live in a very happy, chilled out house.

In conclusion, it is important to act they same way that you want your children to. If you are always angry and aggressive, they are also likely to be.

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April 29, 2008: 12:51 pm: adminWorld Of Psychology

The setting is a tastefully decorated office. “Sally,” a thirty-two year-old entertainment executive, leans back in a comfortable recliner and takes several slow, deep breaths. Her therapist dims the lights then begins speaking to her in a lulling, dulcet tone of voice.

Within a few minutes, it is obvious that Sally is deeply relaxed; in fact, she appears to be asleep. Observing subtle physiological reactions in response to his patter, the therapist completes the induction “five, four, three, two, one, zero, deep sleep.” Sally exhales with almost a sigh, signaling a final release into deep hypnosis. The therapist begins to work.

Hardly the stuff of a Las Vegas stage show, this. There is no cheering audience, no group of willing volunteers eager to have the hypnotist “change” them into human cartoons. The hypnotherapist will spend the next twenty to thirty minutes simply talking to Sally in a quiet, almost conversational voice.

It is a monologue rich with stories, images, and metaphor language designed to match Sally’s personal linguistic learning patterns, and intended to connect directly to her subconscious mind, the source of most human behavior; good and bad, desired and otherwise.

Sally’s reason for seeking hypnotherapy was to overcome an almost paralyzing fear of public speaking that was becoming increasingly detrimental to a very promising career. She also wanted to reduce and control the stress that comes with her job. After only four sessions, she now conducts most presentations with ease and assuredness. Speaking to large audiences is still somewhat intimidating, but given her rapid progress, her fear will likely soon be a mere memory.

At the end of the session Sally ‘awakens’ on cue, feeling refreshed and relaxed. Ask her and she will tell you that beyond the fact that she is successfully conquering her fear, in general she feels significantly better about herself than she did before she began her therapy.

These are common side effects of therapeutic hypnosis improved self-image and confidence, and a profound sense of achievement and empowerment. Not surprisingly, Sally likes the feeling, as do most who experience contemporary hypnotherapy a unique combination of an ancient art with modern behavioral science.

The use of hypnosis as a catalyst for behavioral change and physical healing dates back to the earliest periods of recorded history. From the time of the ancient Indian and Egyptian cultures, hypnotherapy has ebbed and flowed in popularity, sometimes flourishing, sometimes almost disappearing, but always surviving across cultures, geographies, technologies, and time itself.

In the era of modern healthcare over the past hundred years or so, and continuing today hundreds of studies conducted at many of the most prestigious academic and medical institutions around the world have repeatedly and empirically verified the efficacy of hypnotherapy for many clinical situations.

For example, a keyword search for hypnosis or hypnotherapy on the Websites of the American Medical Association, the National Institutes for Health, the American Psychological Association, or the World Health Organization will lead to scores of articles, abstracts, and reports on clinical studies regarding the use of hypnosis in modern medicine and psychotherapy. Hypnosis is utilized in leading institutions like the Mayo Clinic, integrated into the practices of thousands of physicians and psychologists, and practiced by tens of thousands of lay hypnotherapists worldwide, and with good reason.

Hypnotherapy is extremely versatile. It can be applied to great effect across a considerable variety of vocational, avocational, and clinical situations. It helps people eliminate fears and phobias; eradicate bad habits, negative emotions and attitudes; and improve their performance at work, in athletics, or in virtually any other area of their personal, professional, or recreational lives; and often very quickly.

In clinical settings, where lay hypnotherapists must work under the referral and supervision of licensed physicians, hypnotherapy is often an effective adjunct to conventional treatments for a variety of conditions like Obesity, Irritable Bowel Syndrome, Lupus, Migraine, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Fibromyalgia, Tinnitus, Asthma, Allergies, Warts, HIV, infertility, and even some cancers. Dr. Joan Friedrick, PhD, MA, writing on clinical hypnosis for ABC News Online’s Healthology: “It is estimated that 94 percent of patients benefit from hypnotherapy, even if it is only linked to improved relaxation.”

Hypnotherapy can help patients prepare for and heal faster from dental procedures, surgery, and childbirth. It is used successfully to control chronic pain, and as an adjunct to, and sometimes a replacement for, chemical anesthesia. Many patients also find relief from discomfort associated with harsh treatments like chemo and radiation therapy. Under referral from licensed psychotherapists, hypnotherapists also provide adjunctive treatment for a variety of mental health issues that exceed the scope of vocational/avocational self-improvement. At the same time hypnotherapy still exists in a sort of netherworld between mainstream healthcare and metaphysical quackery, fenced in neatly by myths, fears, and misconceptions around what it is and how it works. These misgivings are most likely born of the fact that most people’s only exposure to hypnosis is through stage shows and bad melodramatic plot devices that may entertain, but also utterly misinform.

Certainly, watching a group of hypnotized stage-show volunteers go through their paces might lead any rational individual to conclude that the subjects’ have indeed lost control of their minds, unequivocally the number one fear regarding hypnosis. After all, who in their right mind would act like that?

The answer lies in the fact that while we can all experience induced hypnosis if we so choose (and we must choose to or we won’t) a small percentage of the population is by nature especially suggestible to the hypnotic state. A trained stage hypnotist spots these types in the audience, then simply picks volunteers from the likely candidates and invites them to the stage.

These natural somnambulists, as they are called, also happen to be the most likely personality types to want to be part of a show but they never lose control of their minds, nor can they (or anyone) be forced to do anything they don’t want to, or wouldn’t normally do.

In fact, hypnotherapy is more than anything else about helping clients increase control over unwanted emotions, behaviors, and issues in their life. So if those folks we see on stage flap their wings and quack like ducks it is because they want to. It takes all kinds after all.

Second only to the fear of losing control is the fear of getting stuck in hypnosis if something incapacitates the hypnotherapist a common ploy in B movies and again absolutely untrue. Should that unfortunate circumstance arise, the hypnotized subject will simply ‘wake up’ and hopefully call 911.

Many people also believe that seeking help to change behaviors or overcome emotional challenges reflects some sort of personal weakness. Ironically, virtually everyone depends on many others to help us live our lives barbers, doctors, dentists, farmers, butchers, mechanics, plumbers, etc. Yet when it comes to mental well-being, perhaps the most important aspect of our lives, many of us shun professional assistance, fearing we’ll be looked upon as weak. We think we should be able to do it ourselves, and that may be a huge misconception.

There are many theories around personality and behavioral development, yet it is generally accepted that most behavioral and emotional patterns are set fairly early in life. Once ingrained, most behavior also becomes largely automatic. We experience a stimulus or trigger and react without conscious thought. So, for most people, trying to change behaviors, emotions, or improve physical performance through the sheer dint of conscious intent or willpower is often, if not always, futile. It has nothing to do with lack of desire, character, or personal weakness. Our minds just don’t work that way.

For instance, asking Sally to will herself out of her fear of public speaking would have been akin to thinking that she had willed herself into it. Upon hearing her name called to speak she certainly didn’t think, “okay heart start racing, palms get sweaty, throat tighten up, voice get squeaky, panic set in.” No it just happened. It was an automatic response. So, how do we change that response?

Hypnosis places the mind in a condition of focused receptivity. Being in hypnosis may feel as benign as simply sitting with one’s eyes closed, or it may feel profoundly trancelike a feeling of very deep relaxation while always completely awake and aware of what’s happening.

Regardless, while we are in hypnosis, it is believed that the inner critic of our conscious mind is held in abeyance, thus giving our unconscious mind a chance to accept suggestions for the changes we wish to effect. In other words, while in hypnosis, we re-teach the unconscious mind to react to given behavioral or emotional triggers in a new and desirable way.

In Sally’s case the subconsciously-generated feelings of fear and anxiety toward public speaking were replaced with feelings of calm and confidence. With reinforcement the new response of calm soon became every bit as automatic as the old response of fear had been. If the process sounds fairly simple, it largely is at least in the hands of an experienced and well trained practitioner. And regardless of the precise mechanism of hypnotherapy, which like most mental health protocols is subject to debate, it works; people get results.

There are of course limitations to the uses and applications for hypnotherapy it is not a magic bullet. Success requires a client’s conscious desire and commitment to change, a willingness to experience the state, and a belief in the possibility for success. Otherwise, hypnotherapy may not work very well, if at all.

Dr. Friedrick also reports in Healthology that, “according to the World Health Organization (WHO), hypnosis should not be performed on patients with psychoses, organic psychiatric conditions, or antisocial personality disorders.” Hypnotherapy is also not considered effective for treating addictions to mind-altering substances like drugs or alcohol, except perhaps when combined with a twelve-step program. Even then its use is probably best limited to building motivation and promoting active participation in the program rather than actually trying to change the addictive behavior.

Finally, it is important to reiterate that for any medically-related or psychogenic conditions, hypnotherapy is an adjunctive therapy; it is not medicine, nor psychotherapy, and using it as such or as a replacement for such is both contraindicated and against the law. There are many beneficial medical and psychological applications, but a lay hypnotherapist must first obtain a written approval/referral from the client’s physician or licensed psychotherapist to legally and ethically work on such cases.

For anyone interested in trying hypnotherapy, finding a good hypnotherapist is much like finding a good physician or psychotherapist it’s wise to do some shopping. For best results an individual must feel comfort and rapport with the therapist and have confidence in the therapist’s abilities, training, and experience.

Since most states have no standards for training, certification, or licensure of hypnotherapists, obtaining this sort of information is important, and a well trained, experienced practitioner should be quite willing to provide a prospective client with credentials and references. This offers consumers some protection from incompetents, false expectations, or illegal practices. If not offered this information it might be prudent to look elsewhere for treatment.

Of course legislation that prescribed standards for the training, certification, and licensure of hypnotherapists would obviously lend further legitimacy to the profession. It would facilitate the acceptance of hypnotherapy by health insurance providers, help rid the profession of incompetents, and help move hypnotherapy even more firmly into the mainstream of modern healthcare. In the opinions of those practicing hypnotherapy as dedicated professionals and the thousands of “Sallys” who literally transform their lives through its help, this powerful combination of ancient art and modern science deserves no less a position in today’s healthcare system.

John McGrail, C.Ht. is a Los Angeles-based clinical hypnotherapist with additional certifications in NLP (Neuro-Linguistic-Programming), Timeline Therapy, Therapeutic Imagery, and EFT, (Emotional Freeing Techniques). His private practice focuses on personal growth and spiritual development, behavioral modification, and performance improvement in career, athletics, and academics. He also works on a variety of health issues under appropriate medical/psychological referral. Helping people acquire personal peace, abundance, and success is his passion

John is frequently interviewed and cited in major publications, periodicals and broadcast media. He has published numerous articles on hypnosis and behavioral change, and is writing a new book entitled, “Who’s Driving Your Bus.” He is a member of the American Counseling Association, the American Hypnosis Association, and serves on the executive board of the Hypnotherapists Union, whose standards are among the most rigorous in the field of clinical hypnotherapy. He can be contacted through his website at http://www.hypnotherapylosangeles.com

April 15, 2008: 9:58 pm: adminWorld Of Psychology

Your colleague in the adjacent cubicle took credit for you big sale; she blackmailed the receptionist and got her fired; she sweet-talks the boss every day and he falls for it. She feels no remorse for all the trouble she causes. She has no conscience. Her empathy seems fake. She causes trouble in the office but she keeps getting rewarded for it. Upper management loves her. You think to yourself, “What a psychopath.” Actually, you may be right. Psychopathy in the workplace is alive and kicking.

We all know people like this in our workplace - our colleagues, our co-workers, our boss, upper management, the salespeople - but few of us even considered that these people may, in fact, actually be psychopaths.

The clinical definition of psychopath is: A person with an antisocial personality disorder, manifested in aggressive, perverted, criminal, or amoral behavior without empathy or remorse.

Dr. Robert Hare, a professor of psychology, estimates that 1 out of every 100 people is a “subclinical psychopath,” someone who leaves a path of destruction and pain without a single pang of conscience. Further, psychopaths are attracted to positions of power and there are some researchers that believe that 1 in 10 corporate executives are psychopaths.

Dr. Robert Hare and Dr. Paul Babiak recently wrote a book about corporate pyscopaths called “Snakes In Suits.” The book explains how corporate psychopaths climb the corporate latter by being deceitful, stealing other people’s ideas, taking credit for other people’s work, yet doing this in a smooth manner.

So, psychopaths may naturally be attracted to the business world. Often, their personality is seen as appropriate; they exhibit traits such as aggressiveness and assertiveness which is often the characteristics of a good leader.

Psycopathy in the workplace may be a problem that most people have not even considered. If Dr. Hare and Dr. Babiak are correct in their assumptions it at least begins to explain some of the white collar crime that is taking place in Corporate America - embezzlement, extortion, fraud, bribery, corporate scandals. Perhaps recognizing the problem is the first step in avoiding another type of Enron situation?

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April 8, 2008: 5:40 pm: adminWorld Of Psychology

This article is all about beating depression. I am a person who suffered from long bouts of depression, however after deciding to change my whole outlook on life, I now have a much happier, successful and stress-free life. I will explain how I went about achieving this new life.

As I grew older and especially when I was in my early twenties, I used to always compare my life with other people I knew, for example my friends. It seemed to me that my life was so much more of a struggle than what their’s was and that most of these people had so much more going for them and so much more to look forward to than I did.

I was not happy at the hand of cards I had been dealt and would regularly be down in the dumps, feeling sorry for myself. I had a number of issues in my life which had a major impact on my self-confidence and self-esteem, which would also lead me into depression. This issues including a weight problem, a stutter, a bald patch on my head and I am quite short in height compared to the average man.

I was in a regular state of depression and found it very difficult to pull my self out of it. The stress for example of socialising when you have a stutter and trying to gain employment would take a lot out of me. My hair started to turn grey when I was only twenty-one years of age.

I was not content at always being depressed and at the age of twenty-two, I decided to attempt to change my whole life. I had to have a whole new approach and a totally different thought process, in a nutshell I needed to chill out, think in a far more positive way and learn how to de-stress.

This was not going to be easy however it was essential to do. I started to read many self-help type books and books about eradicating depression. I learnt many things such as worrying about a situation makes it even harder, not easier and that in life all you can do is to try your best, therefore whatever the outcome you can feel proud that you gave it your best shot. It is also important to remember that we only live once and that that life could come to an end tomorrow, therefore we should treat every day as if it is the last and to enjoy ourselves.

The main change I made was that I started to think and compare my life to people I was reading about in the newspapers or watching on the television instead of comparing my life to my friends for example. From learning about countries in the third world and reading about certain disasters and terrorist acts, I realised what a fool I had been and that I was actually one of the lucky ones. If and when I start feeling down or depressed, I quickly switch on the news and it soon shakes me out of that temporary depressive state.

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March 31, 2008: 6:20 am: adminWorld Of Psychology

Studies have shown that about 20 million Americans receive some form of depression treatment on an annual basis. Twenty Million Americans! Considering how grave an illness depression is, this is a rather worrisome number. As a result recognizing the symptoms of depression as a step for depression treatment may perhaps be the first move to make.

Like any other illness, depression, characterized by insomnia, mood swings, frustration and loss of appetite amongst other things, is a disorder that starts little but left unattended to can increase in intensity. Thus all efforts should be made to attend to the symptoms of depression and for best results; this should be in its beginning stages.

Now, the symptoms of depression may be caused or aggravated by other diseases (for example, in my case it was years and years of acne and asthma as a teen and adult), stress, use of drugs, Improper diet, Loss of a job or loved ones. The list is endless friends. However, as a famous writer once said, in regards to depression here is one helpful thing to remember: “Life’s problems are like knives, which either serve us or cut us, as we grasp them by the blade or the handle: Grasp a difficulty or problem by the blade and it cuts; grasp it by the handle and you can use it constructively”

In order to not allow depression to take over your present situation and consequently hinder you from overcoming it, below are its symptoms in no specific order.

Symptoms of Depression:

1. Irritability and mood swings.

2. Hopelessness and extreme pessimism (a negative outlook on life)

3. Loss of energy, extreme fatigue and tiredness.

4. Loss of interest in hobbies, having a good appearance and even associates and loved ones.

5. Extreme feelings of helplessness and no self worth.

6. Suicidal thoughts (in extreme cases)

7. Insomnia (lack of) or excessive sleep.

8. Inexplicable weight loss or gain thereof, triggered by eating disorders.

Though not a conclusive list as characteristics vary by patient, these symptoms of depression listed above are the most common ones. If you happen to experience any of these symptoms, the first step, in my opinion and based on research will be to look within and ask why this may be occurring. Thoroughly assess your situation to see what it is that could be triggering these symptoms of depression within you. Could it be a failure at something or the loss of something or someone of importance?

If you go over the problem carefully, you would be able to target the cause and consequently solve it. Remember, the mind is the most powerful force on the earth, He who can control it can control all things my friend.

You will notice that I have made little or no mention of drugs or members of the medical fraternity. That is simply because I believe a drug-free alternative of treating depression and its symptoms will be the safest route to go. What with all the side effects of popular depression medications, why aggravate an already disturbed health with such unwanted side effects as nausea, weight gain and even sexual dysfunctions as reported in some cases.

With a drug-free approach of Positive Thinking, a carefully selected diet (yes, it matters friend) and some form of physical exercise-my personal recommendation being Yoga-you can tackle the symptoms of depression at any stage and empower yourself to lead a healthier and happier life.

Other things you can add to these three limbs are to take time to relax more, enjoy your favorite music (remember David playing for Saul in the Bible, yes music is soothing for depression friend), seek uplifting entertainment, read more self-help books, Heck, if you’re of a Christian background go to Psalms 23 or 91…they help. Seek out the company of those you know make you laugh. Or if need be, let out a good cry (don’t abuse it and you are not weak if you do, it’s part of being human.), clear the mind and empower yourself (if need be with positive affirmations repeated mentally or aloud) and tackle your problems because YOU CAN DO IT!

May Happiness be yours.

Beat the Symptoms of Your depression starting today.

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